Doing what makes you happy…
We often go through life doing everything in our power to make others happy… Sometimes, in fact often, this is at the price of our own happiness.
So… I’m just going to put it out there that we must be a little selfish from time to time…
If we all play to keep others happy, how many of us on our death beds will genuinely look back and say… I was truly happy…
This massive domino effect comes into force and reverberates through the company you keep, your family, your friends…
Let me give you an example… My Mam and Dad… Could have stayed together when I was a kid… To keep me happy… To keep my grandparents happy… To keep society happy… They would have spent their days in a loveless relationship, I would have been blissfully ignorant to this deep rooted unhappiness… Well at least until the arguing started… Then I’d have ultimately become unhappy, through seeing my parents unhappy and trapped without love… I’d have probably gone on to settle in an unhappy relationship myself…
My stepmother may never have met my Dad and been happy, I would never have had two beautiful and happy sisters… Can you see the domino of happiness that came from my parents being “selfish” in seeking out their own happiness?
So let’s take a second to look at fitness you know I like to start these blogs with an off topic example… But an example of fitness…
You don’t want to sign up to those 3 sessions a week, it would be far too selfish of you, the money for something else, you are depriving your kids of the hour with you over breakfast or before they have tea… You’re putting too much onto your husband/wife expecting them to take care of the kids after a hard day at work…
You continue to go through life, hating your reflection, unable to play for any lengths of time with the kids because you’re gasping for breath, you are out of shape and unhappy about it… You are unhappy because you can’t find anything to fit to have a night out with the girls so you either don’t go or if you do you spend the night sat in a dark corner…
You get older and your kids are stuck to the TV and don’t see any reason to participate in sports or physical activities… You become that parent with an overweight and inactive child… They become unhappy, they get bullied, they look to you for the answer but you don’t have it… Well you do, but you can’t truly know or advise because you didn’t ever do it for yourself…
Your kids are watching you grow older before your time, they nurse you through illness and ask you why you never took better care of yourself… They start to resent you for your life choice of remaining unfit and unhealthy because you are depriving them of later years with you, depriving their children of having grandparents…
Have you ever considered the above?? Truly???
If looking after you is going to make you happy, for a few hours a week having the time to focus on you, getting fitter or being in a healthier mental state, whether it’s a few hours to read, have peace and educate and enlighten yourself… Be selfish… Take the time… One day, those around you will be thankful for it…
S x
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