Why the only person you need to worry about is yourself.
Training is a personal thing, your results are a personal thing and how you feel is a personal thing.
Nobody really understands any of those things except you and unfortunately when it comes to fitness it’s an area full of really shitty people who will always look to belittle and diminish the progress of others no matter what you do.
This applies to everyone from the highest level athletes to the person in a gym for the very first time.
It’s something even I experience as a coach.
As sure as night and day there’ll be an insecure little bitch waiting to deliver some form of criticism or shitty comment on anything or everything you do.
The only difference is as you get more confident in yourself and what you are doing you learn to just laugh at them.
Nobody who deserves your respect would ever partake in such behaviour and why would you listen to someone you have no respect for.
The problem is people do let this sort of thing effect them and I can understand why.
It’s hard to shrug it off; especially if your new to this, However, you come across these sort of people right the way through life.
It’s no different to the school bully.
The thing to remember is just like back then it’s always the kid with a shitty home life who feels the need to overcompensate.
The same thing applies to these people, they feel better about their shitty little lives by belittling others.
Don’t be bothered by them. Feel sorry for them.
It’s almost a fact that people exclusively pass comment on people they feel inferior too in some capacity.
It’s like a support mechanism.
If they feel the need to do it it’s because you’ve got something on them and they don’t like it.
I despise the fact that the opinion of others is one of the primary barriers to exercise that persons experience.
The fear of being judged, laughed at or excluded can be crippling and I’m not going to lie and say it doesn’t happen.
What I will say however is that it doesn’t happen in any class I run and it never will.
I’d rather stand in an empty gym than allow that sort of environment to fester but unfortunately I’m one coach in one gym… I don’t control the industry.
This is why it’s important to focus on only yourself.
Learn to shut the world off. If you can develop this skill you can make yourself bullet proof.
You can’t hurt what’s not listening.
If you are getting involved in training. Decide what your goal is and stick to it.
Don’t allow it to be changed or influenced by anyone.
You know what you want to achieve, stick to it.
Find a trainer and or programme you trust and listen to them.
There’s no such thing as the perfect coach or programme but there is a perfect coach and programme for you.
Find something you believe in and stick to it.
If you believe in it and follow it you will get results.
If anyone tries to tell you it’s wrong or to do this or that just say that what you do works for you.
People will always offer up an alternative it doesn’t mean it’s better for you.
Stay strong in your decision.
Make sure you enjoy what you do.
There’s no magic exercise you have to do and anyone saying there is… is full of shit.
Find some activity you enjoy doing and enjoy doing it.
Fuck what anyone else says you enjoy it and that’s all that matters.
Finally keep as far away from social media as possible.
This makes it even easier for shitty people to be shitty people.
If you really want to concentrate on yourself and your goals, just get rid.
No distractions, no abuse, no de-motivation and no comparing yourself to others.
It will make the whole journey a lot easier for you I promise.
As I said earlier it’s not an easy thing to do but people are never going to change and there’s only so many people you can punch in the face before you get fed up.
If the people around you aren’t going to change try changing yourself and your mindset.
If you can learn to do that you’ll have far less negativity to deal with in the pursuit of your goals and a much higher chance of achieving them.